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Relationships

5 Things to learn from your Cat about Intimacy

Sometimes you want to snuggle while you sleep and sometimes you don’t want to be touched. It’s not personal. Communicate how you want to be touched. If you don’t like the way something feels, let the other know immediately and firmly. No need to bite or claw, just be firm. Sometimes you want your belly…

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I Love You Completely! Not Likely.

Really? Completely? Every bit?   We all have a lot of aspects of self. Some parts of ourselves we appreciate and some we really would rather not have. Well, our partner is the same and they have some aspects that run the range of some you really adore and some that you cannot stand.  …

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Conflict – Have One Today!

  Why it’s good to have conflict early and often in your relationship or when agreeing too much sets the stage for unresolved conflict. What? You want us to have conflict right off the bat? Well, yes, I do. I don’t want you to have any old conflict, though. I want you to have resolved…

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Are You Micro-Managing your Relationship?

I coach in both organizations and in personal lives. It is amazing how often I read an article or speak to somebody about challenges in the corporate world and can pretty much directly apply it to personal relationships. Today is a prime example. I was just reading a New York Times Magazine article “What Google…

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The Importance of a Relationship Check-In

  In our jobs we often have formalized methods for getting feedback. Whether these work or not or are remotely satisfying is a topic for a different area (and, yes, I have pretty strong opinions….) One of the reasons we need feedback is that often we do not see ourselves clearly and can be unaware…

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I’m not being childish, I’m being emotional!

I heard this line in a TV show the other night and it really struck me. It seems fairly common in relationships that when one person exhibits emotion, it is deemed to be childish behaviour and whatever is going on that has led to the emotion is discounted. What is childish about being emotional? Is…

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Is Your Five Year Old Self Running Your Conflicts?

You are at choice when you are having a disagreement. Most times what I would really like to do is act on my best childish response. Let’s see shall I: Run away and THEN they will be sorry that they weren’t nicer to me or… Hmmmmm. Actually, that’s about it. No, wait, there’s another: I’m…

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