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Posts by Rosalie Boulter

5 Things to learn from your Cat about Intimacy

Sometimes you want to snuggle while you sleep and sometimes you don’t want to be touched. It’s not personal. Communicate how you want to be touched. If you don’t like the way something feels, let the other know immediately and firmly. No need to bite or claw, just be firm. Sometimes you want your belly…

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What About ME?

People who are a part of implementing change in organizations know that no matter what initial communications are happening in the organization, that pretty much everybody in the audience is thinking some variation of “What does this mean to me?”. In fact, one aspect of the communication plan is to do one’s best to give…

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I Love You Completely! Not Likely.

Really? Completely? Every bit?   We all have a lot of aspects of self. Some parts of ourselves we appreciate and some we really would rather not have. Well, our partner is the same and they have some aspects that run the range of some you really adore and some that you cannot stand.  …

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Bring Your Best Self Home

Who are you at your finest – your best self? What attributes does that person have? Are you gentle? Are you kind? Are you considerate or funny or passionate? And who are you at you worst?  Are you impatient and critical? Are you angry? Completely unable to listen? Overwhelmed and unable to make a decision?…

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Conflict – Have One Today!

  Why it’s good to have conflict early and often in your relationship or when agreeing too much sets the stage for unresolved conflict. What? You want us to have conflict right off the bat? Well, yes, I do. I don’t want you to have any old conflict, though. I want you to have resolved…

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Are You Micro-Managing your Relationship?

I coach in both organizations and in personal lives. It is amazing how often I read an article or speak to somebody about challenges in the corporate world and can pretty much directly apply it to personal relationships. Today is a prime example. I was just reading a New York Times Magazine article “What Google…

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The Importance of a Relationship Check-In

  In our jobs we often have formalized methods for getting feedback. Whether these work or not or are remotely satisfying is a topic for a different area (and, yes, I have pretty strong opinions….) One of the reasons we need feedback is that often we do not see ourselves clearly and can be unaware…

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I’m not being childish, I’m being emotional!

I heard this line in a TV show the other night and it really struck me. It seems fairly common in relationships that when one person exhibits emotion, it is deemed to be childish behaviour and whatever is going on that has led to the emotion is discounted. What is childish about being emotional? Is…

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